Don’t try to be the “manager”, do not get involved with band business, that is for the band.
Do Not complain when your (insert holiday here) date gets cancelled because a show has been scheduled. They are the one’s buying the CDs and merch, not you, so let them have their time. Like your going to sleep in the back of a van and eat ramen for 4 months straight!?
In fact, the life of a musician can make relationships hard.
Nonetheless, you can work to make your relationship better and be the best partner you can be to him or her, though don't forget to expect the same in return.
Again and again I’d fall for the sensitive guitar player who wears eyeliner … But maybe you will be bothered by him missing your birthday because he has a gig in New Jersey, or inclined to paranoia that he’s got “a girl in every port.” Also, if you have pets or kids together, you should expect to do more of the care when he’s on tour. Again, these people aren’t worth getting jealous or insecure about. I might possibly be bitter because I got a song for Valentine’s Day one year which appeared to have been written that same day. If you’re someone who works a 9-to-5 job and requires a full night’s sleep like I do, this is not a match. This is just a fact about all creative folks — writers like myself, actors, musicians, whatever.
and again and again the same patterns would repeat themselves that led to us breaking up. I perfected the “watchful girlfriend off to the side” stance — not possessively hovering too close, but also making it clear to both him and the other chicks that I was watching. You’ll be expected to go to not just some gigs, but probably their shows. Make no mistake: these are all serious things to consider if you’re dating a successful musician. But if you’re also a night owl, then this relationship could work out great. We put our souls into what we do, so we can’t help but take it very, very personally if people don’t like it — even if we’ve become successful doing it professionally. If you go to bed with a writer, expect to wake up with shit written about you.
This good-time boy is a competent multitasker but frequently shamed by his bandmates for not knowing scales. That sort of hang-backedness speaks to a deep-rooted confidence, an honorable work ethic even, that can only be described as hotness amplified. If you're finding this too much information, you should check with the spouse and make sure you're not missing some information. And she's been "posing as a lefty liberal" a long time. Half of the words in this piece don't even need to be here. billclausen: You do realize that although the topic seems to be "bass players," it's not _really_ about "bass players", right? " pecanpie (anonymous profile)November 19, 2014 at p.m.
If you’ve made it that far, you probably already know everything you’re about to read here, so it may be a better use of your time to have a nice relaxing bath, practice yoga or whatever rocks your boat.
There are loads of girls whose greatest dream is to date a musician, and most of them go about it the wrong way and end up either as one night stands or squealing fan girls.
If there were a Pocket Field Guide to Dating Musicians, it would read like this: This species can best be viewed in its natural habitat, under the colored lights of nightclub stages — and in the drier months, anywhere there’s free beer. Take solace, Bass Players, someone appreciates us ! To Indy readers Starshine represents the ideal of the prototypical Santa Barbara housewife.
(also dont get so drunk that you embarrass your boyfriend or his bandmates) 23.
You will always, unreservedly and unashamedly come second. He'll have more intense relationships with his bandmates than he'll ever have with you. Heck, if we didn't need to be at work at nine, we'd also be tempted to sip rioja in the kitchen at 2am on a Tuesday night, chewing the cud over whether Jeff Buckley's finest hour was prophetic in the wake of his unexpected demise. You don't get his Talking Heads circa reference but you laugh anyway and hope it slips under the radar. He can't fathom why you paid £50 to see Alt-J when he could have made a call and got you backstage. To the average musician, going abroad is for tours only and 'holidays' consist of watching old movies or meeting his friends in artisan coffee shops or dinge-bars. If you don't want to be sat alone at an hour's notice for the fourth time this week, eating ice cream and crying while you watch Ian Beale crying on Eastenders, get yourself a back-up plan.