Do men actually ENJOY the endless tedium and stress of going on a string of disappointing dates? (This does not mean that I look down on single people or think you should be in an unsatisfying relationship so, please, spare me the complaints.) But what gets me the most excited, Elaine, is that you’ve forced me to consider something that I’ve never actually considered before: Why Don’t Men Hate Being Single As Much as Women Do?
Or does it all simply come down to the capriciousness of the female orgasm – since men can have an orgasm with practically anyone, they don’t much care who they’re with, whereas if a woman finds someone who’s actually good in bed she’s desperate to hang on to him?! My assistant says it’s because when they’re single, they can play video games and watch porn, and if they got a girlfriend, she’d insist they give up one or both. So, together, let’s consider why men are generally cooler with being single than women: 1. As I observed in “Why He Disappeared”, this tends to be the way that men deal with most of their relationships.
The Opportunity To Check Out All Those “What-Ifs” A random person you meet at a party, an acquaintance you’ve had a crush on forever, maybe even a co-worker: when you’re single, you can pursue these “what-ifs” and see where they lead. Your legs, your beard, or any other part of your body. ”, said in a faux-complaining voice and regretful smiles as you head out the door. Conversely, if you want to spend an entire weekend ensconced in your room, and watch Seasons 1-4 of the West Wing, and order delivery, and sleep all afternoon, and wear your rattiest sweatpants, and stalk people on facebook cause you’re just in that kind of mood, you can.
It’s pretty nice to be able to go out, and stay out as long as you want, without having to worry about whether your significant other is tired, or their feet hurt, or you said you’d call, or they have an early start in the morning, or you’re “so old!
“Looking back, I'm glad I was able to fully experience my first weeks of college without anything holding me back.” Although you may not want to jump into dating a senior immediately when you start your freshman year, there’s nothing wrong with a little harmless flirtation with one of the older guys helping out at orientation activities.
And if, at two am, you meet someone you like, you can just kiss them, or go home with them, or just get their number. Maintain eye contact just a beat longer than normal, engage in a little repartee, touch someone’s arm, send a few playful texts that may or may not lead anywhere. Your dating and hook-up stories may not end in “happily ever after,” but they’re always entertaining. Big Decisions Are Yours And Yours Alone To Make If something happens in your life — a job opportunity, a lifestyle change, a sudden trip, a need for something new — you don’t have to consult anyone else. Your decisions affect you and you alone — so you never have to compromise or turn down an opportunity for someone else. The Remote Control Is Yours And Yours Alone And you’re going to watch that “Toddlers And Tiaras” marathon in its entirety. Eat Whatever, Whenever You Want Something about being in a relationship seems to put a lot of pressure on meals: whereas a single person can just pour themselves a bowl of cereal for dinner, a couple will more often than not feel the need to “go get food” or put together an entire meal.
And if, at four am, you feel like getting a slice of pizza, or a whole pizza, you can, no problem. You can enjoy eating without feeling the pressure of making a meal a big production. You Can Have Sex With Someone Else If You Want To People in relationships can’t. Privacy People always say that one of the pleasures of being in a relationship is finding someone with whom you can always be yourself, and do anything in front of. Single people can decide on last minute trips, afterwork plans, or impromptu weekend activities without checking with anyone. First Dates First dates are scary, and they don’t always turn out well, but they’re always, always laced with possibility.
— Elizabeth Hackett (@Liz Hackett) September 28, 2015 so if i spend my time eating cheese, watching Netflix, n having orgasms alone, i'm 'depressed', but if someone else is there i'm 'in love' ?
Why don’t men hate being single as much as women do?